A secure parent-child bond develops when parents are able to respond sensitively to the child while at the same time paying attention to their own needs. Mutual attunement is a constant and slow process, marked by great joy but also by excessive demands, fear and helplessness.

 

If we are overwhelmed by our own feelings in addition to those of our children, we cannot meet our children as we would like. Most of the time, we lack important resources, which can affect our family life.

 

The view from the outside can be helpful when we can no longer find our way. When we are stuck, it is so valuable to face the difficulties together.

We create space for ourselves to develop as parents and gain security. We take time to meet ourselves and our children as we are, strengthening our ability to take care of ourselves.

 

When we are able to consciously giving space to wishes and needs, 

we become slow, gentle and clear.